Please Pray for a Fellow Blogger and Her Son
December 17, 2009 by Karissa
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Those of you that spend much time around the blog world, either reading RSS feeds, twittering or just plain blog hopping are probably aware of the death of a dear blogger’s son, 2 year old Bryson. Shellie is the mom and owner/writer at Military Mom. And yes just as you read, she is a military mom. She had moved into a new home recently and in an unfortunate accident, he son Bryson apparently drowned in the backyard pool.
I learned about this the night it happened, Monday but I could not bring myself to post about it. I tried. Several times. I have no words to share with Shellie or with you readers. My heart breaks for her and her family. I do know her husband is about to be sent to Iraq (again). I have never been blessed with a child and therefore I have no idea of the love that is formed in that unique bond.
What is truly disheartening to me right now is that Shellie asked for prayers via twitter after the accident happened and had tweeted earlier that day and now it seems a world of tweeters and others on attacking her mothering skills and trying to place blame on her. Even if she wasn’t paying attention, don’t you think she is aware and hurting? Does she need a whole twitterverse after her? Now mind you, I am not saying it was her not paying attention, I don’t know, I was not there. My opinion? Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.
In case you aren’t familiar with the Bible or the saying it is basically saying point a finger and you have three pointing back at ya.
Shellie, my heart pours for you and the rest of your family. It has been wonderful getting to know you on Momdot.com/forums and I hope to get to know you better and to help you heal over this long process.
Readers, if you can please place Shellie and the rest of the Ross family in your prayers I know it would mean the world to me and to her as well. If you have a prayer circle as I do, please share this in your next phone call or email.
And I do think if anything needs questioned, it is why it took emergency personnel 15 minutes to arrive at Shellie’s home.
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I’m passing through and couldn’t believe that people
are so insensitive. I have children of my own
and know what it’s like to lose one of my own and
it’s painful..our prayers are with her and her family.
God bless her..
My Heart to Shellie and her family. I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiments expressed in this post. We as a society are so quick to judge and be critical of each other. Yet each of us are unique souls, with a unique consciousness and perception of the world around us.
We all make mistakes, missteps, and no matter how careful we are tragedy may strike. There for the Grace of God go I, is personally the sentiment I embrace.
May little Bryson be in the Light & Love of Our Creator, and may all of Shellie’s Loved Ones come together to support and comfort her and her family during this sorrowful trial.
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who are we to question this woman’s twittering and way of coping? no one that is who. sending good energy her way to cope with the loss of her child and the stupidity of society…
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I too had many sleepless nights and many tears my heart breaks for her.
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Praying…..such a sad story!
I have read about this many times, & it’s just so sad.
Shellie, our hearts go out to you in this difficult time.
RIP Angel Bryson
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All it takes is one second for something bad to happen and although i am not a parent myself i know how busy parents are. You can’t watch all your children at every second. I hadn’t been online much this past week because my parents were in town so i don’t know all the details of what happened and what was said. Im sure she feels absolutely terrible already and doesn’t need people making her feel worse.
I am not going to judge this mama, nor am I going to judge her “judges.” People can be brutal, and this is just not the time. We don’t know the circumstance…high stress (moving, dad shipping out…etc) and she doesn’t say if they ever had a pool before, perhaps she had not developed that sense of “awareness” with regards to the pool…you know what I mean? Not excuses…I think of Steven Curtis Chapman’s recent loss of his young daughter and the heartbreak… but he did not blame, did his best to maintain integrity of his family. How about prayers of support and for comfort for this poor grieving family? And for those who are judging…well I have been guilty of that too, and when your eyes are opened, perhaps you will be judged unfairly…this will come back to you…it hurts. Not karma…Christ! Galatians 6:7
whether i understand her reasoning or not…I could never be so cruel to anyone. It amazes me that people can be so heartless and judge mental. My prayers are with her and her family.
I believe the reason she tweeted is she believed in the power of prayer…she was scared & wanted us to pray, not criticize…please pray now…her loss is immense..I know as a mother I could never handle it….
So many prayers for peace and comfort.
I am very sorry to hear this happening to anyone. I just don’t know what to say. I guess there really isn’t much you can say except for how sorry you are. I hope that people can try and put themselves into her position and think about how they would feel. She’s going to feel guilty about this for the rest of her life. I hope that her and her family can get through this devastating time.
I just cannot fathom the cruelness of some people! The woman’s child is DEAD! Leave her alone!! Have you lost a child? I have and I promise you that she is second guessing herself every instant and she doesn’t need anyone else doing it for her. Have you ever felt that twisting pain inside your chest? I have and I can tell you that she doesn’t need anyone turning a knife in it for her! She and her husband are grieving…and if you don’t have any words to lift her up then SHUT UP! My deepest sympathies to this poor woman…I can say that time dulls the pain, and with healing comes peace. I will be praying for you my dear…
I was heartbroken when I first found out this happening, but now I am sickened that people blamed and attacked her in this manner. I cant even begin the pain of losing a child, but to have people attack you for it; its unspeakable.
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I am totally appalled at how vicious the Twitter and blog attacks were: talk about kicking someone when they are down!
How many of us were perfect parents? How many parents can say that they “never” took their eyes off their child for one moment? The truth is, accidents do happen. Children get kidnapped…fall off their bikes…break bones…fall off of monkey bars. Millions of things could go wrong at any moment.
There is such a lack of compassion, a lack of human kindness…
It saddens me.
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I saw the tweet that day and it broke my heart! When I heard the news, I was at aw for words. As a mom of 5 myself, I can not imagine the pain she must be feeling right now.
Twitter was rolling all day yesterday with trash talk and the point here is, regardless of what anyone thinks, this mother just lost her child. If someone has not been in the situation, they truley do not know what she is going through.
My heart breaks for her, for her family and for her little boy who lost his life way to soon.
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I was on twitter when much of this went down~ I cannot believe the cruelty that some people offer in our world today. The truth of the matter: This Mom no longer has her son! This is a time when people come together and do NOT point fingers! I pray for this family in the days and months ahead- Time will move on, but the joy that this child brought to this family will be cherished in the moments they loved! KUDOS for posting this! Prayers to this family during this season of what should be a joyous time of year~ Hugs to the family!
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The attacks on her are truly disgusting and reprehensible. It’s awful that these people feel some kind of sick need to try to make a grieving mom feel even worse. They’re just looking for attention and publicity. Sadly, they seem to be getting it.
We’re praying for Shellie and her family over here. No one should ever have to go through this pain. Loss of a child is totally unfair. Poor family will definitely be in our thoughts and prayers. Thanks for posting this.
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oh my goodness… this is truly heartbreaking! And the attacks on her as a parent? That’s truly uncalled for, especially during this time of grieving. I can’t imagine the pain she’s going through after the loss of a child. I don’t think I could bear it!