Find the Words Review and Giveaway
Susan Halpern has been a social worker and psychotherapist for more than thirty years. Her first book, The Etiquette of Illness: What to Say When You Can’t Find the Words, continues to be an important go-to manual for difficult times.
Now in Finding the Words: Candid Conversations with Loved Ones
Finding the Words, drawn from Halpern’s years of experience as psychotherapist, wife, and mother, suggests possible, scripted solutions and positive outcomes for a wide range of situations:
- a partner who needs to talk about the irritations of joint living
- parents of an adult child who requires unexpected financial support
- grandparents who don’t know how to intervene
- siblings who disagree about politics or religion
- and couples in times of crisis, illness, affairs, and divorce.
Presenting life situations along with the words that can be used to cope with them, Halpern offers honesty with a great deal of vitality and wisdom
Reading Finding the Words is like taking out an insurance policy on the most precious of our relationships. It will carry you through times of crisis and enable you to rebuild the relationships that are the foundation of your life, often making them stronger and better than before.” – Rachel Naomi Remen, MD
I have been in so many situations in my life where I had no idea what to say after a friend told me devastating news.
And I know I have certainly told people some stories, that left them speechless, but yet wanting to console me. It is an uncomfortable feeling for both parties. I have made great strides in becoming a better communicator, but I still have miles to go.
I was never a great communicator, but after a really horrible relationship, I had somehow taught myself to shut down. Not to say anything, just leave it. Letting things fester and fester. And by me not sharing, I stopped learning what lessons life and friends might have for me.
This book is so important, and would be a fantastic addition to anyone’s library. The pre-teen, teen, young adult and even Grandma can learn subtle, soothing ways to talk through difficult times. Although some of the book may not be quite right for young adolescents, the first half of the book is for anyone. I know I have learned so many lessons already, and I have only been skimming the parts I want to learn!
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i have trouble sharing my feelings my husband works on it with me, but this book could help me too
After a death in the family years ago.
We could always use some help with communication in these kinds of delicate situations.
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I cannot think of a single family member (including my husband) whose relationship with me wouldn’t benefit from a book like this. I have always had a very different outlook on life than members of my family, and many times we have a hard time communicating without ending up in an argument.
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i needed the book when my wife and i argue, looks like it may have helped
Could have used some help when I had to tell my sister that our mother had eliminated her from her will. Did not go well.
This would have been a blessing after my Mother passed.
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My wife had a rough relationship with her father for over 20 years. When she finally decided to end it, I found myself in a situation I had never been in. My parents are still very much in love and happily married, so being a child of divorce and dealing with all of that was completely foreign to me. I know that I was there for her, but sometimes I wish I could have said or done more.
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I voted for you a while back and polls are now closed so I can’t vote again…and I do not remember my number…grrr…hope this counts! Looks like you won too! 3
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I get your emails.
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When my step-mom died, I did not know how to handle being around my dad. I was a married adult, as I am now, but had never lost a parent or step-parent and, because my dad and I were not close, did not know how to handle his dramatic reactions to the loss. I did not know what to say or how to act or whether to touch him or not. It was horribly uncomfortable and at times even scary when he would yell out suddenly. I definitely could have used this book.
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I have an alcoholic friend, and it’s often extremely difficult to talk to him about his drinking and the impact it has on his life and the people around him. To date I’ve blundered through this alright. However more tips would be extremely helpful!
Looks like a good read!
Could use it right now, have just had my 89 yo father move in with us, and the loss of his independence, regardless of how wreckless that state has been, has been a serious issue.
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I have Asperger’s so I get plenty of awkward social situations.
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This would be useful for talking to my extended family about some sensitive subjects, such as the constant infighting.
my mother’s extremely difficult to talk to for many reasons, i’d love to have this for some tips on how to communicate with her!
this is a book I could use
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Dealing with my son and his wife who live with me but don’t contribute to the bills. That’s my latest problem.
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When my best friend died in January of this year and his fiance sent me a text message at 3:16 a.m., I called her but did not know what to say
My fiance broke his back last summer. A book like this would have been nice to have around. We both needed some uplifting words
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I sure could have used this book the day my new daughter-in-law verbally attacked me in front of other people (this was some time ago and we have since made up, but I was shocked and speechless at the time); and I could use this book now that my husband of 35 years and I are divorcing.
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Two of my sisters are depressed and it’s sometimes very difficult to talk to them and help them. I am always trying to find the right words to say to them. I think this book might help!
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I need this for conversations with my mother. I just had a baby and she is constantly giving me advice although she is not the greatest example. I don’t see the point in being mean, so being able to talk to her sensitivley would be great.